“The point is, everybody knows that people make the effort to remember things that are important to them—from a birthday or special anniversary, to a personal identification number or favorite wine label.Therefore, when you fail to remember someone’s name, especially the second or third time they tell it to you, it sends a clear message that you do not deem them important.
Make it a goal and plan to achieve it.” The second key in preparation is attitude. “Never again say to yourself or another, ‘I’m horrible at remembering names.’” This statement reinforces the negative and ends up becoming true. Instead, declare the positive desired state.
Say to yourself, “I’m getting better and better at remembering names.” Or, “I really enjoy remembering names and I’m good at it,” she says.
By repeatedly practicing a few simple techniques every day with everyone you meet, the memory muscle grows and before you know it, you’ll be ‘bench pressing’ more names than you ever thought possible.” In Pictures: 6 Tips for Remembering Names In addition to laying the groundwork with commitment, attitude and practice, there are six techniques to apply in the moment when you’re meeting someone, which help ensure you learn, remember, and use their name effectively, Price says. “Square your shoulders toward them, look them in the eye, shake hands, smile with your eyes, and listen—listen intently,” she says.
“Make it a top priority to learn their name and engage in a meaningful way. You’ve probably heard this tip before—but how often do you try it?
“When you lift weights at the gym, your muscles grow—there’s nothing magical or mysterious about it.
Similarly, the more names you ‘lift’ into your consciousness, the more you build your muscle for remembering names.
“This mistakenly takes the focus off of the other person and onto us; plus it robs us of that precious opportunity to savor and remember the ‘sweetest sound’ of their name and anchor it in our mind. As the other person is answering your question, repeat their name silently at least ten times in your mind.
By the time we finish talking, we’ve forgotten their name.” To avoid this mishap, ask a simple question to get them talking first. “Listen to what he or she is saying, and be sure to provide nonverbal cues to show you’re interested and paying attention.
Their name is seemingly insignificant and irrelevant to you.
Of course, you may not consciously feel this way, but the person’s perception of you is their reality.” Upon meeting someone, when you take the time and make the effort to learn, remember, and use the ‘sweetest sound’ of their name, it makes a lasting and positive first impression on them, Price adds.