But even if I could calm ourselves down, there was no end in sight.
When she calmed down, she explained she hated us making a fuss.
But what is just as likely is that she disliked the fact that her successes had become as much ours as hers.
Once the long break was seen as a chance for children to have adventures, discover themselves and explore nature.
Now the summer months are viewed as an extension of the academic year – a chance for kids to catch up… Researchers at Duke University found that after a maximum of two hours of homework, any learning benefits rapidly start to drop off for high school students.
While some children will do everything to avoid doing it, at the other extreme others will become perfectionists who have to be persuaded to go to bed.
Some moms I spoke to had to bribe their children to do less!Instead, children become angry when they feel we are turning them into passive projects.Rather than feel like they are disappointing us, they disconnect.Homework is one of the most common flash points between kids and parents – the crossroads at which academic endeavors meet parental expectations at close quarters – and behind closed doors.Surveys have found that homework is the single biggest source of friction between children and parents.The irony is that all this obsession with pushing our kids towards success, pushes the very people we are trying to help.While all of us would say we love our children no matter what, unfortunately that’s not the message our kids hear.Given the cloud of anxiety hovering over them, no wonder some of these children perceive education as stressful.Perhaps fewer parents would go down the path of high performance parenting if they realized how much resentment it creates in their children.With less than an hour to go before my seven-year-old daughter’s bedtime, my home was a long way from being the oasis of calm I was hoping for at that time of evening.Instead Lily had just scribbled all over her homework worksheet, thrown her pencil on the floor and was now yelling at the top of her voice: ‘’ With my younger daughter to put to bed, Lily in a melt-down and me exhausted after a day at work, the tension was rapidly rising.